UTOPIA

Casa Viva, Ciudad de México, México.

April 26th, 2019

Schism is by definition the separation of a person from an organization or movement originated by the disagreement to a dominant ideology or doctrine but with the preservation of hope and faith in shared ideals. 

I believe that breaking up a romantic relationship works in the same way. Love -the way we socially perceive it- seeks the imperishable and unconditional which means that a flaw -a break up- forces us to return to stage one of the search for true love every time we fail, preserving faith in its existence, faith in the ideal of love. 

Because of this faith, when we are in a relationship we can romantice domestic violence by comparing resistance with loyalty and unconditionality. Then control tactics like jealousy and guilt are disguised as attentions and amorous manifestations that simulate care for the other, a masquerade of fake vulnerability that favors the exercise of manipulation for the permanence of the other party happens and breaking the cicle becomes hard and painful. 

In Cisma, I work with my personal experience with domestic violence, which I experienced in my latests romantic relationships. For the action I wrote a message in a mirror with red lipstick: "I loved you honestly and I have never acted with the intention of hurting you". Then, I wrote in 16 white plates violent phrases from my past relationships. One by one I broke the dishes on the mirror following a squared trajectory, my feet got hurt in the course due to the remains of mirror and porcelain. The action ends when I had broken all the plates and I place myself inside a transparent baking pan filled with cold water and ice. 

The phrases:

  • You are selfish.

  • You don't give a fuck about me.

  • You are never there when I need you.

  • You never loved me.

  • Are you dating someone else?

  • You don't care about our house.

  • You exaggerate your looks to get favors for being pretty.

  • This is all your fault.

  • How come you have plans with friends? I wanted to see you TODAY.

  • I do not like that friend of yours.

  • The responsibility is partially yours, you should not get drunk.

  • I do not want to see you anymore, stay with your friends.

  • You are the only person I can love.

  • You only care about your work.

  • I will be better without you.

  • The only thing you did was abandon me.

Pictures by San Rigo


 

Alma García Gil

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